I’m Megan Redshaw, blogger, wife, mother, and superhero behind this site and Living Whole. If you’re reading this, it’s probably because you want to get to know me, so I feel like I should tel you the important things first:
I have an aversion to divorce (better yet, an aversion to the things that create divorce and it’s effects on the family), a passion for seeing women healed and restored, a desire to help mothers thrive, a love of justice, and I adhere to a strict code of integrity, truth, and transparency.
I’m a Jesus follower and not just one of those “in name only” Christians, but a legit “I practice what I preach, will follow Jesus even if it hurts, don’t even know how I survived, I will always say YES,” Jesus follower. (Please don’t confuse me for the perfect Christian, wife, or mom, because there is no such thing and if there were, it certainly wouldn’t be me.)
I’ve dealt with betrayal, adoption, took a crash course in narcissism, walked through divorce, did my time as a single mother to five small children, submitted to the fire, abstained from dating, married myself to the idea of allowing Jesus to meet my every need, and then healed enough to embrace marriage again when God raised up a man for me (and my children).
I know what it’s like to find yourself with the shreds of a blown up marriage, to walk through a divorce because you have no other choice, how hard it is to put your life back together, how to protect your kids as they are forced to walk through it too, when to fight, when to submit, how hard it is to take the high road, what it’s like to single parent, and how isolating and painful it can be. I understand debt, poverty, and abuse, depression, anxiety, and the spiritual warfare that comes at you out of nowhere and makes you feel like it’s never going to end. I also understand the unique issues we face with dating, re-marriage, “co-parenting,” and blended families.
You have a friend, empathizer, divorce survivor, single mom thriver, warrior mother, going to lift you up and get you through this accountability partner in me.
Why I Started This Blog
When I was walking through the absolute hardest time of my life, there were few resources that told me what to do and how to practically apply the Bible to my situation. I didn’t know what to expect or how to survive, and I received a lot of advice (most of it straight up wrong) from people who just simply didn’t understand. There were a lot of books about divorce and redeemed marriages, but nothing that spoke to my situation – nothing for the marriages that weren’t “redeemable” and nothing about the challenges that are unique to the single mother.
I started blogging at Living Whole five years ago, and this website is a spin-off dedicated to creating a resource-rich community for women who need a safe place to land, who find themselves facing divorce, for those trying to heal and navigate some of life’s greatest challenges, for the single mother, and is a place where you can come and be accepted … just as you are. The goal? To help women survive divorce, function in life, and thrive in motherhood.